Embrace Your Brilliance

November 27, 2012

We Choose to Be Homeless at 60

Phoenix Life Coaching, NLP Life Coach - Homeless Woman
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Embrace Your Brilliance Life Coaching Phoenix - Homeless WomanThis morning as I was driving to the office, I watched an elderly woman shrouded in a dark brown-black skirt, a dirty black-brown hoodie, with her bare feet encased in skimpy sandals navigating the crosswalk in front of me.  Her demeanor was downcast, she was hunched over and her eyes were focused looking down at the pavement. Drudging slowing across the crosswalk, I wondered if she would make it to the other side before the light changed.

I found myself asking the question:  What kind of choices do we make to be homeless and dirty at 60 pushing a shopping cart?  I tried to imagine why she found herself in this pathetic situation.  Obviously, she was sleeping somewhere dirty, there were large spots of brown dirt on her hoodie.  How did she get there? I heard a statistic once that many of the homeless people became homeless because they had been “put out” of mental institutions and clinics who could no longer afford to care for them.  I wondered, was she mentally challenged, or had she just made unfortunate choices.

Our lives are completely based upon what we believe and what kind of choices we make.  If we believe the “crap” we learn when we are young (i.e., “you’re not good enough,” “you can’t do anything right,” “you’re bad,”  “you’re wrong,” or “you’re stupid”) we can be debilitated for life.

Once we reach adulthood (18-24ish) it is our responsibility to make conscious choices:

  • To Get real with ourselves.  To look ourselves squarely in the eye and own who we currently are, where we are currently at.  Nothing is wrong here.  No judgment here… just an acknowledgement of the current status of ourself
  • To stop blaming others for our emotional, physical, mental, intellectual and financial condition
  • To take responsibility for ourselves, our career, and our life
  • To learn how to emotionally grow up, to have adult boundaries, to problem solve, to communicate our desire at an adult level and to stop acting like a “reactive” toddler
  • To create the life we want to have through conscious choice, goal-setting and planning
  • To surround ourselves with a support community … people who will build us up… tell us the truth … challenge us to rise above… people who model excellence, stability, peace and success
  • To avoid bad influences and “friends” who will “pull you down” or “keep you down”… to “run” when we see them coming.  To stay away from CRAZY and CHAOS.
  • To “be” or “become” the person we wish to be, and keep working on it until we arrive at that place/space
  • To get a dream big enough to make us cry.  If your “why” doesn’t make you cry, it is not big enough.
  • To learn from mistakes and make better choices. To quit beating yourself up feeling worthless and just realize you can make better decisions. To realize that life is one big learning process, and there is nothing wrong.  We are continually getting “feedback” about what works or doesn’t work.  Feedback is NOT FAILURE … it is just feedback.  Feeback is simply new information to add into our formula for next time.
  • To stop acting like the victim and instead “be” or “become” empowered
  • To find people, resources, books, seminars, professionals to help us answer questions and shift our thought processes
  • To quit WHINING and looking for “sympathy” or a “rescuer” and move into action on our behalf
  • To take full responsibility for all the results of our decisions (good results and not so good results)
  • To figure out how to change what we don’t like about ourselves, our attitudes and our life

I wonder, if this poor woman had just smacked herself on the side of her head when she was 24, not listened to the senseless rhetoric stored in her brain recycling itself to her detriment, where would she be now?  What kind of car would she be driving?  What kind of house would she be living in?  Would she be married and have children in college or busy raising their own children? She surely wouldn’t be drudging across the street in a dirty hoodie.

HOW ARE YOUR CHOICES WORKING FOR YOU?  ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE RIGHT NOW?  IF NOT, WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO DO ABOUT IT?

We are all one decision, one choice away from ruin.  We are all one step away from being homeless.  Some would say, “But for the grace of God there I’d be.”  Our decisions are the structure, the foundation that creates our life.  

Each and every single one of us has the choice to BE who we want to be.  Unfortunately, many of us are not willing to do the work.  And, yes, it is “work” to undo all the “doing” of the early years (especially when it wasn’t “done” well).  It becomes a lot of thankless work with seemingly small or little result.   Patterns are hard to break.  Patterns of thinking and behavior are ingrained very deeply into our core. Without a PATTERN INTERRUPT that is big enough, no shift is likely to occur.

Some of the quickest ways I know to cut through the crap and reprogram yourself are Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Hypnosis.  Why would you need these kinds of techniques and intervention?  Frankly, these techniques help you to reprogram at the unconscious/subconscious level where all the early programming is stored.  What will take you 5 years in traditional counseling may take 5 minutes or 5 hours instead when one of these techniques are utilized.

Anyone competently trained in these techniques, combined with an intuitive gift for coaching can help you slice through years of negative, unproductive behavior in a short time.

You, as always, are in the driver’s seat of your life and you get to choose which road you drive.

Your mission, should you want it, and decide to accept it … is to become an empowered person living with limitless choices and endless possibility.

Call today 480-343-8700 to schedule your EFT, NLP or Hypnosis session.  Have the life you want.  Be the person you think you are (for real).

April 26, 2012

We Hear What We Want to Hear and Tell Ourselves What We Want to Believe

Life Coaching Phoenix: We hear what we want to hear - More importantly we create who we want to be

We are a funny people. We are wired to want to hear only good about ourselves. That wiring sometimes stops us from being in reality about what is so and creating what could be.

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Life Coaching Phoenix: We hear what we want to hear - More importantly we create who we want to be
I just received a joke in my email from a friend of mine. The joke goes like this:

A man’s wife had just bought a new line of expensive cosmetics guaranteed to make her look years younger.  She sat in front of the mirror, for what had to be hours, applying the “miracle” products.

Finally, when she was done, she turned to her husband and asked, “Darling, honestly now, what age would you say I am?”

He nodded his head in assessment, and carefully said, “Well, judging from your skin, twenty.

Your hair, eighteen.

Your figure, twenty-five.”

“Oh, you’re so sweet!” gushed the wife.

“Well, hang on,” he replied, “I’m not finished adding it up yet.”

We are a funny people. We are wired to want to hear only good about ourselves.  That wiring sometimes stops us from being in reality about what is so and creating what could be.

When we are not genuine with ourselves about who we are, who we are being and what we are “really” up to in life, we cannot create limitless possibilities, generate and manifest the success or abundance we are seeking.

Just as the woman in the joke with all the creams, she spent hours bathing herself in these creams in an attempt to cover or mask the reality of her age and physical condition.  So we, too, put up smokescreens and apply masks and blinders as to where we really are.

Only when we can breakthrough the self-emposed chains of our thoughts can we live into our limitless possibility.

What will it take for you to face yourself?  Will you need a guide, a confidant, a listener?

Step up, step into your life, grab it and run with passion toward your abundance.

 

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Rhonda Robbins, Success Strategies Coach, NLP Practitioner, Personality Trainer and Certified Life Coach is always available for one-on-one business or personal coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google Voice or Yahoo Video Call. You can email her at rhonda@embraceyourbrilliance.co or call/text to 480-343-8700.

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April 24, 2012

A Zipper Can Change Your Life, You Create Your Life With Your Thoughts

Gideon Sundback Changes the World with the Perfect Zipper - Life is like a box of thoughts

A Zipper Can Change Your Life, You Must Change Your Thoughts — Imagine that something as small as a zipper changed the world…Every thought creates something. Every action we take moves us toward something. We create our present. We create where we find ourselves. Let every piece of emotional and physical energy positively reflect your intention to [more]

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VIDEO:  Gideon Sundback is celebrated for perfecting the zipper today

A Zipper Can Change Your Life, You Must Change Your Thoughts

Imagine that something as small as a zipper changed the world, or the words of one rock n’ Gideon Sundback Changes the World with the Perfect Zipper - Life is like a box of thoughtsroll tune, or the prayers of one woman (Mother Teresa).  Today’s Google Doodle celebrates Gideon Sundback.  While Gideon did not “invent” the zipper, he improved the work of others by “perfecting” the zipper.

Sometimes our one single word speaks volumes of motivation and care that inspires others.  Other times we merely lay a foundation for someone else to perfect —  that later positively impacts our families, communities and world.

Whatever we find ourselves doing today, everything we do has meaning.  Every thought we have creates something. Every action we take moves us toward something.  We create our present.  We create where we find ourselves.  We create our possibilities.

Let every piece of emotional and physical energy positively reflect your intention to create purpose and meaning as you inspire not only yourself but others today.  Carpe Diem!

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Rhonda Robbins, speaker, teacher, certified life coach and NLP practitioner has been providing transformational life changing services and personality training to hundreds of individuals, businesses and groups for over ten years.  Rhonda owns and operates, Embrace Your Brilliance, and is available for one-on-one coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google+ Hangout or Yahoo Video Call. You can call me directly at 480-343-8700 or email me at yes@embraceyourbrilliance.co to set up a time for a session, or to ask a question.

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No part of this publication/blog may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means — electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other — except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the author.