Embrace Your Brilliance

April 30, 2012

“Meaning Making Machines” Can Choose Now vs. Then

Meaning Making Machines Success Strategies Coaching

#Meaning-Making-Machines. What keeps us in ineffective jobs, careers, relationships that makes us inert; unable to make chg

By

Meaning Making Machine Success Strategies CoachingI am always amazed by people’s reactions when they are let go or laid off from a company. Quite often the person has a sense of entitlement due to longevity at the company which presents itself in an angry response.  The meaning that is attached to the event often has little to do with the actual event.

I have heard people say things like:

“Oh, I have been here 3 years and they are letting me go and keeping you, and you have only been here 5 months!”

“Yeah, well good luck to you here working here!”

“Why are you letting me go? So and So doesn’t do any work, and you’re letting me go?!”

On Accountant said, “Well, I knew things were bad, but not this bad!” (and he took care of the finances. uh, duh.)

Personally, I was laid off from a computer parts manufacturer from inside the technical writing department. I was completely in shock when it happened, but admittedly, I knew in my core, deep down in my soul that it had been time to move on for a while. My intuition had been nagging me for months and I had ignored it until that moment presented itself.  Feelings experienced after being laid off range from shock, fear, anger, anxiety and depression.

What is it that keeps us in jobs, careers or relationships that makes us inert; unable to make a change?

  • What is it inside us that decides we “deserve” this job and we are “entitled” to continue to work there?
  • Don’t the employers get to decide what works to make their company a viable concern?
  • Don’t they get to determine whose skill set is what is needed at at this moment?
  • Isn’t it their business and their choice?
  • We haven’t put capital on the line, taken out a loan or mortgaged our personal lives to fund a business.
  • We haven’t gone and sought investors or drummed up clients to pay for the services or products to make the business profitable.
  • We have nothing on the line  — and yet — we feel entitled.
  • Hmmmm, there is something to coach around.

We all have comfort factors and build protective cushions around ourselves. We may even create our own reality about events that is far from the truth. Finally, we have a tendency to attach meaning and stories to everything that touches our lives.  Some would even go so far as to say we are “meaning-making-machines,” and we attach  meaning to everything that happens in and around us. Typically the meaning we attach has to do with the tape made by our”subconscious mind recorder” at some earlier time in our lives. Every time something happens our subconscious mind finds the matching tape and automatically plays it — whereupon we react once again to it!  We have incredible minds and our mind does an amazing job of “protecting” us by recycling old tapes over and over again in an attempt to protect us.

As thinking people, we have a choice — we can allow our mind to continue its reactionary responses (which may or may not serve us) or we can make a different choice NOW.  When the subconscious response is triggered we can choose to allow the reaction or respond differently. We have a new opportunity to change our frame, to change our programming.  Our responses have been with us forever, does that make them accurate?  Does a longevity mean it serves us and is is viable today?  That is the big question we get to ask ourselves:

“How is this response pattern working for me today?”  “Is it serving me?”  “Am I in congruence with this response?”  “Is this a response I want to have?

We become very comfortable, perhaps even complacent in our lives and actions.  Often we just stay put and don’t move into action

  1. when we feel we should
  2. when our gut and intuition is telling us to move or run
  3. because we are comfortable, fearful, or have no idea what to do next.
  4. We have no plan and can’t seem to put a plan together, so we stay and wait for the inevitable, which comes to our dismay.

Today is a good day to assess and reassess your reactions not only to a stressor like being laid off, but to the ordinary stimuli, life and relationships in our daily lives.  When you find response patterns that are not serving you move into action to change things to improve your lives.

2/3/2011

CONTACT US | Embrace Your Brilliance and Change Your Life

Rhonda Robbins, Success Strategies Coach, NLP Practitioner, Personality Trainer and Certified Life Coach is always available for one-on-one business or personal coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google Voice or Yahoo Video Call. You can email her at rhonda@embraceyourbrilliance.co or call/text to 480-343-8700.

Copyright © 2012, Rhonda Robbins. All rights reserved.
No part of this publication/blog may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means — electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other — except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the author.

 

April 29, 2012

What About the Experts?

About the Experts Life Coaching Success Strategies for Life

What did we do before there were #experts everywhere? Experts know what they know. But they DO NOT know you! It is critical to distill a true sense of who you are as an individual, to be your word, to do your best daily, to clearly see yourself for who you are!

By

About the Experts and life coaching success strategies for lifeWhat did we do before there were experts everywhere?

I don’t know, but I’d like to think we got along quite nicely without them. That we lived full, satisfying, gratifying lives of no regret.

We have become a society of experts, know-it-alls, do-it-yourselfers, SEO experts, business experts, marketing experts, financial experts, landscape experts, medical experts and so forth. You get it —
experts from all walks of life.

I don’t really mind experts who are truly experts—what I mind is being sold an “expert” and getting in return an ordinary “Joe Blow!” That’s just wrong!

Experts know what they know. But they DO NOT know you! It is critical to distill a true sense of who you are as an individual, to be your word, to do your best daily, to clearly see yourself for who you are!

You have all YOUR answers inside you and know what is the best decision for you to make. You are truly the one who knows you. You are your own expert. You may be blocked or unable to see the answer and activities that are right for you. But, you are the key to your life.

A good coach helps you move past your blocks and limits by asking you clarifying questions and waiting for you to produce the answer from within and then help you implement strategies for success in your life.

Look in the mirror to see – not to admire and primp, but to see the true self reflected back.

Reflect, distill and know.

2-16-2010

CONTACT US | Embrace Your Brilliance and Change Your Life

Rhonda Robbins, Success Strategies Coach, NLP Practitioner, Personality Trainer and Certified Life Coach is always available for one-on-one business or personal coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google Voice or Yahoo Video Call. You can email her at rhonda@embraceyourbrilliance.co or call/text to 480-343-8700.

Copyright © 2012, Rhonda Robbins. All rights reserved.
No part of this publication/blog may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means — electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other — except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the author.