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June 25, 2012

10 Suggestions to Help You Resolve Conflicts

Conflict Resolution Guidelines for Life Coaches from Rhonda Robbins
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Conflict Resolution Guidelines for Life Coaches from Rhonda RobbinsWe all find ourselves faced with conflict at one time or another.  These suggestions may help you bring power and resolution to an upset.  Usually when we are confronted with a conflict our emotional responses are quickly triggered.

Find power and choice by employing these guidelines:

1. Timing is critical – it is unwise to attempt to solve conflict when emotions are running very high.  When you find yourself involved in an “emotionally-charged” confrontation or conflict with another, suggest  that you schedule a time to discuss and resolve the conflict.

2. Be Open and Honest – remember the reason you are having a conflict is because you both had a different idea or opinion about something.  When you attempt to resolve the conflict its helps if you are willing to listen carefully and hear the other person’s point of view. When you are not concerned with being “right” or “winning” you are empowered and open to other possibilities.  Being open and honest allows for compromise and resolution.

3. Share Common Goals – find the common ground.  Remember you are both seeking the same goal — a relationship win. This is not a power struggle.

4. Use Active Listening Skills – using active listening and allowing the other to speak freely without interruption sets a good basis for a win-win situation.  Acknowledge what the other person has said and indicate that you heard and understood them.

5. Avoid YOU Statements – Using you statements is inflammatory and suggests you are blaming the other person.  Using “I” statements sets an safe tone and allows the other to know how you feel when you speak in the first person, e.g.,  “I feel sad when we disagree”. “You” statements will get you nowhere fast and may escalate the situation.

6. Speak and behave in a calm manner – in combination with the other suggestions above, this helps move the discussion forward to resolution.   Seek a win-win outcome.

7. Allow for Breaks or Time-outs – when emotions become too strong, either person can request a “time-out.” A time-out is a better choice than allowing the conflict to escalate and become unmanageable.

8. Brainstorm Solutions – there is generally more than one way to accomplish something.  Together you can collaborate about possible solutions to the conflict.  Do not discard ideas as stupid, but rather employ typical brain storming strategy in which all solutions are noted, and let the good ones rise to the top through discussion.

9. Leave the Past in the Past – anything that is not connected with the current conflict should not be discussed.  Stay in the present moment with the current topic.  Bringing up the past does not help you when attempting resolving conflicts. Instead bringing up the past just gives you more than one topic or problem to try to resolve.  Stay focused and stay in the present.

lO.  Be Willing to Consider Compromise – Be willing to meet in the middle and to find comfortable, acceptable common ground. It is rare that conflicts end up on one side or the other.

 

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Rhonda Robbins, speaker, teacher, certified life coach and NLP practitioner has been providing transformational life changing services and personality training to hundreds of individuals, businesses and groups for over ten years.  Rhonda owns and operates, Embrace Your Brilliance, and is available for one-on-one coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google+ Hangout or Yahoo Video Call. You can call me directly at 480-343-8700 or email me at yes@embraceyourbrilliance.co to set up a time for a session, or to ask a question.

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May 10, 2012

What is #Personality Theory – Free #PersonalityTest

Understanding Personality, Personality Training, Personality Theory, Personality Type

#Personality Theory- Free PersonalityTest. Key to unlocking human behavior…what motivates,drives, thrills or offends us

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Personality theory dates back to 370 BC and Hippocrates, the father of modern-day medicine. Hippocrates noticed (he was a Greek physician) that people seemed to fall into 4 different categories in terms of behavior.

He theorized that this was due to the fluids (humors) in the body.  He noted that within these 4 groups there were common traits or tendencies… and thus personality theory was born.

Understanding personality is a key to unlocking human behavior … that helps us understand what motivates, drives, thrills or offends individuals.  A firm grasp of personality behavior allows us to instantly “get” the emotional needs of those we are in community with.  We are also better able to communicate and gain rapport with them, as we realize …

We are different.

I am nothing like you,

You are nothing like me.

 

4- Model personality tests and personality quizzes are easy to understand at a basic level.  You can instantly gain access to valuable relationship and communication tools with a cursory understanding of personality theory.

Not only can you gain a deeper understanding into your own behavior and attitudes, but you can also use this powerful personality knowledge to bring power and choice to others both individually and in the workplace.

In this first video of the WE ARE DIFFERENT series, you will get an overview of personality theory from its beginning through 2002.

You will gain an understanding of the development of different theories, including Freud’s “Nature” theory.

Keep in mind that the point of the personality evaluation is not to judge or label ourselves or others –  for each of us is genuinely unique. There may be similarities in the personality patterns/behaviors however, many, many other elements are factored into the complexity that is you!

Benefits: Personal Life

  • Better understand and accept yourself
  • Better understand and accept others
  • Improve communications
  • Improve relationships
  • Restore harmony, acceptance and love to relationships
  • Eliminate conflict and strife
  • Capitalize on your strengths
  • Gain personal freedom and confidence
  • Identify areas for strengthening
  • Understand your children; learn how to enhance their strengths while helping them learn strategies to minimize their weaknesses
  • To understand how you are a unique individual
  • Understand your boss
  • Understand your employees
  • Better understand and accept others
  • Improve communications
  • Improve relationships
  • Eliminate conflict and strife
  • Capitalize on employee’s strengths
  • Use the personality evaluation as a screening tool to help you assemble, motivate and maintain a group of dynamic, productive people to create the synergy that ensures business success, i.e., your success.

Benefits: Workplace

  • Understand your boss
  • Understand your employees
  • Better understand and accept others
  • Improve communications
  • Improve relationships
  • Eliminate conflict and strife
  • Capitalize on employee’s strengths
  • Use the personality evaluation as a screening tool to help you assemble, motivate and maintain a group of dynamic, productive people to create the synergy that ensures business success, i.e., your success.

Embrace Your Brilliance High Performance Coaching helps individuals, business owners and their staff reach heightened levels of awareness and being – resulting in increased interpersonal synergy, dynamics and productivity.  Executive and personal success strategies coaching with high-performance techniques which include personality training designed to accelerate results.  Most executives and individuals rely on a familiar set of skills and behaviors as they navigate the workplace. For organizations to come alive and “thrive” often requires a “pattern interrupt.” Utilizing an extensive blended portfolio of business and behavioral skills Embrace Your Brilliance help individuals and executives deliver high-performance results.

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Rhonda Robbins, Success Strategies Coach, NLP Practitioner, Personality Trainer and Certified Life Coach is always available for one-on-one business or personal coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google Voice or Yahoo Video Call. You can email her at rhonda@embraceyourbrilliance.co or call/text to 480-343-8700.

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No part of this publication/blog may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means — electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other — except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the author.