Embrace Your Brilliance

November 27, 2012

We Choose to Be Homeless at 60

Phoenix Life Coaching, NLP Life Coach - Homeless Woman
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Embrace Your Brilliance Life Coaching Phoenix - Homeless WomanThis morning as I was driving to the office, I watched an elderly woman shrouded in a dark brown-black skirt, a dirty black-brown hoodie, with her bare feet encased in skimpy sandals navigating the crosswalk in front of me.  Her demeanor was downcast, she was hunched over and her eyes were focused looking down at the pavement. Drudging slowing across the crosswalk, I wondered if she would make it to the other side before the light changed.

I found myself asking the question:  What kind of choices do we make to be homeless and dirty at 60 pushing a shopping cart?  I tried to imagine why she found herself in this pathetic situation.  Obviously, she was sleeping somewhere dirty, there were large spots of brown dirt on her hoodie.  How did she get there? I heard a statistic once that many of the homeless people became homeless because they had been “put out” of mental institutions and clinics who could no longer afford to care for them.  I wondered, was she mentally challenged, or had she just made unfortunate choices.

Our lives are completely based upon what we believe and what kind of choices we make.  If we believe the “crap” we learn when we are young (i.e., “you’re not good enough,” “you can’t do anything right,” “you’re bad,”  “you’re wrong,” or “you’re stupid”) we can be debilitated for life.

Once we reach adulthood (18-24ish) it is our responsibility to make conscious choices:

  • To Get real with ourselves.  To look ourselves squarely in the eye and own who we currently are, where we are currently at.  Nothing is wrong here.  No judgment here… just an acknowledgement of the current status of ourself
  • To stop blaming others for our emotional, physical, mental, intellectual and financial condition
  • To take responsibility for ourselves, our career, and our life
  • To learn how to emotionally grow up, to have adult boundaries, to problem solve, to communicate our desire at an adult level and to stop acting like a “reactive” toddler
  • To create the life we want to have through conscious choice, goal-setting and planning
  • To surround ourselves with a support community … people who will build us up… tell us the truth … challenge us to rise above… people who model excellence, stability, peace and success
  • To avoid bad influences and “friends” who will “pull you down” or “keep you down”… to “run” when we see them coming.  To stay away from CRAZY and CHAOS.
  • To “be” or “become” the person we wish to be, and keep working on it until we arrive at that place/space
  • To get a dream big enough to make us cry.  If your “why” doesn’t make you cry, it is not big enough.
  • To learn from mistakes and make better choices. To quit beating yourself up feeling worthless and just realize you can make better decisions. To realize that life is one big learning process, and there is nothing wrong.  We are continually getting “feedback” about what works or doesn’t work.  Feedback is NOT FAILURE … it is just feedback.  Feeback is simply new information to add into our formula for next time.
  • To stop acting like the victim and instead “be” or “become” empowered
  • To find people, resources, books, seminars, professionals to help us answer questions and shift our thought processes
  • To quit WHINING and looking for “sympathy” or a “rescuer” and move into action on our behalf
  • To take full responsibility for all the results of our decisions (good results and not so good results)
  • To figure out how to change what we don’t like about ourselves, our attitudes and our life

I wonder, if this poor woman had just smacked herself on the side of her head when she was 24, not listened to the senseless rhetoric stored in her brain recycling itself to her detriment, where would she be now?  What kind of car would she be driving?  What kind of house would she be living in?  Would she be married and have children in college or busy raising their own children? She surely wouldn’t be drudging across the street in a dirty hoodie.

HOW ARE YOUR CHOICES WORKING FOR YOU?  ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE RIGHT NOW?  IF NOT, WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO DO ABOUT IT?

We are all one decision, one choice away from ruin.  We are all one step away from being homeless.  Some would say, “But for the grace of God there I’d be.”  Our decisions are the structure, the foundation that creates our life.  

Each and every single one of us has the choice to BE who we want to be.  Unfortunately, many of us are not willing to do the work.  And, yes, it is “work” to undo all the “doing” of the early years (especially when it wasn’t “done” well).  It becomes a lot of thankless work with seemingly small or little result.   Patterns are hard to break.  Patterns of thinking and behavior are ingrained very deeply into our core. Without a PATTERN INTERRUPT that is big enough, no shift is likely to occur.

Some of the quickest ways I know to cut through the crap and reprogram yourself are Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Hypnosis.  Why would you need these kinds of techniques and intervention?  Frankly, these techniques help you to reprogram at the unconscious/subconscious level where all the early programming is stored.  What will take you 5 years in traditional counseling may take 5 minutes or 5 hours instead when one of these techniques are utilized.

Anyone competently trained in these techniques, combined with an intuitive gift for coaching can help you slice through years of negative, unproductive behavior in a short time.

You, as always, are in the driver’s seat of your life and you get to choose which road you drive.

Your mission, should you want it, and decide to accept it … is to become an empowered person living with limitless choices and endless possibility.

Call today 480-343-8700 to schedule your EFT, NLP or Hypnosis session.  Have the life you want.  Be the person you think you are (for real).

May 22, 2012

6 Levels of Being and Awareness | Who do you be? —- Part II

6 Levels of Awareness and Being | Who do you be?
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Transform your thought processes.  Change Environmental “it’s just happening to me,”  “nothing I can do about this” into empowering behavior.  Turn empowered behavior into a set of skills and capabilities and you begin to develop requisite variety.  As you continue to build your arsenal of skills and capabilities you will distinguish and empower your identity which will lead you to a mission greater than yourself!

Find out more about this powerful way of thinking and being.

Embrace Your Brilliance High Performance Coaching helps individuals, business owners and their staff reach heightened levels of awareness and being – resulting in increased interpersonal synergy, dynamics and productivity.  Executive and personal success strategies coaching with high-performance techniques which include personality training designed to accelerate results.  Most executives and individuals rely on a familiar set of skills and behaviors as they navigate the workplace. For organizations to come alive and “thrive” often requires a “pattern interrupt.” Utilizing an extensive blended portfolio of business and behavioral skills Embrace Your Brilliance help individuals and executives deliver high-performance results.

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Rhonda Robbins, speaker, teacher, certified life coach and NLP practitioner has been providing transformational life changing services and personality training to hundreds of individuals, businesses and groups for over ten years.  Rhonda owns and operates, Embrace Your Brilliance, and is available for one-on-one coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google+ Hangout or Yahoo Video Call. You can call me directly at 480-343-8700 or email me at yes@embraceyourbrilliance.co to set up a time for a session, or to ask a question.

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May 22, 2012

6 Levels of Being and Awareness | Who do you be? —- Part I

6 Levels of Awareness and Being | Who do you be?

Who do you be in life? Who do you want to be in life? http://bit.ly/Kkd0ZC Are you happy being where you are being, getting what you got? Or, are you ready to make some real changes to GET what you want? Move past your current cycle of “stuck”. Get a powerful understanding of how your core values and beliefs impact your success every minutes of the day.

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Who do you be in life? Who do you want to be in life? Are you happy being where you are being, getting what you got? Or, are you ready to make some real changes to GET what you want?  Are beliefs you learned and accepted as a child playing havoc with your life as an adult?

Are you living primarily in the “environment” and stuff just keeps happening to you?  Do you often think God, the universe or others are all conspiring against you?  Are you ready to put yourself in the driver’s seat of your life?


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Move past your current cycle of “stuck” and get a powerful understanding of how your core values and beliefs impact your success every minute of the day.

In this video, Business and Success Strategies Coach, Rhonda Robbins, explains the 6 levels of awareness and being (also known as Dilts Logical Levels) in a unique and broader way than most NLP discusions of Dilts’ Logical Levels.

Embrace Your Brilliance High Performance Coaching helps individuals, business owners and their staff reach heightened levels of awareness and being – resulting in increased interpersonal synergy, dynamics and productivity.  Executive and personal success strategies coaching with high-performance techniques which include personality training designed to accelerate results.  Most executives and individuals rely on a familiar set of skills and behaviors as they navigate the workplace. For organizations to come alive and “thrive” often requires a “pattern interrupt.” Utilizing an extensive blended portfolio of business and behavioral skills Embrace Your Brilliance help individuals and executives deliver high-performance results.

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CONTACT US | Embrace Your Brilliance and Change Your Life

Rhonda Robbins, Success Strategies Coach, NLP Practitioner, Personality Trainer and Certified Life Coach is always available for one-on-one business or personal coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google Voice or Yahoo Video Call. You can email her at rhonda@embraceyourbrilliance.co or call/text to 480-343-8700.

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May 22, 2012

We Are Different: #Personality Theory Part II

Personality Theory, Personality Types, Success Strategies Coach Rhonda Robbins

We are different, I am nothing like you and you are nothing like me. #Personality Video #2 Personality Theory is only a theory until you apply it in a practical way to your life… then, it ceases to be a theory and becomes (with practice) a necessary tool for incredible relationships.

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Personality Theory is only a theory until you apply it in a practical way to your life… then, it ceases to be a theory and becomes (with practice) a necessary tool for incredible relationships.

When we think of Personality Typing, often we think “we can’t be put into a box!”  And, if you thought that you are indeed correct.  Personality traits are broad, and we each have many of the traits.  We generally have a very strong set of traits which stands out above the rest, and then a high secondary set of traits.

With the understanding that we engage in personality study not to judge, criticize or stereo type but to come to even greater leaps in understanding ourselves, our motivation, our core needs, our “wiring” … but also of others.  With application of basic personality typing, we can know which candidate may be better suited for a particular type of position when hiring, we may know that telling a star personality a schedule on Friday for the coming week is a waste of time and breath, and so forth.

A basic underlying theory for personality training is to truly understand and accept

we are different…

I am nothing like you…

You are nothing like me…

With an enhanced understanding of our basic wiring, we can learn to celebrate our differences instead of fighting them!  We can create a rapport with others we have only ever imagined.  We can jetison our frustrations, because while we may not agree or like it, we finally understand the other people who are nothing like me!

More than a toy,

more than a “fun concept,”

taken seriously personality theory can transform every relationship you have from work to those of your children.  You will be better partner, wife, mother, father, son, daughter, boss, co-worker.  You will be a better person.

You will understand you are born with certain inherit areas of opportunity, and you will almost always be attracted to the opposite personality to “fill out” those weak areas.

Sooooo, the challenge to you is to “STOP” requiring, asking, begging and manipulated others to BE LIKE YOU, and to revel in the diversity which makes life interesting.

 

Embrace Your Brilliance High Performance Coaching helps individuals, business owners and their staff reach heightened levels of awareness and being – resulting in increased interpersonal synergy, dynamics and productivity.  Executive and personal success strategies coaching with high-performance techniques which include personality training designed to accelerate results.  Most executives and individuals rely on a familiar set of skills and behaviors as they navigate the workplace. For organizations to come alive and “thrive” often requires a “pattern interrupt.” Utilizing an extensive blended portfolio of business and behavioral skills Embrace Your Brilliance help individuals and executives deliver high-performance results.

__________________________

CONTACT US | Embrace Your Brilliance and Change Your Life

Rhonda Robbins, Success Strategies Coach, NLP Practitioner, Personality Trainer and Certified Life Coach is always available for one-on-one business or personal coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google Voice or Yahoo Video Call. You can email her at rhonda@embraceyourbrilliance.co or call/text to 480-343-8700.

Copyright © 2012, Rhonda Robbins. All rights reserved.
No part of this publication/blog may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means — electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other — except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the author.