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November 27, 2012

We Choose to Be Homeless at 60

Phoenix Life Coaching, NLP Life Coach - Homeless Woman
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Embrace Your Brilliance Life Coaching Phoenix - Homeless WomanThis morning as I was driving to the office, I watched an elderly woman shrouded in a dark brown-black skirt, a dirty black-brown hoodie, with her bare feet encased in skimpy sandals navigating the crosswalk in front of me.  Her demeanor was downcast, she was hunched over and her eyes were focused looking down at the pavement. Drudging slowing across the crosswalk, I wondered if she would make it to the other side before the light changed.

I found myself asking the question:  What kind of choices do we make to be homeless and dirty at 60 pushing a shopping cart?  I tried to imagine why she found herself in this pathetic situation.  Obviously, she was sleeping somewhere dirty, there were large spots of brown dirt on her hoodie.  How did she get there? I heard a statistic once that many of the homeless people became homeless because they had been “put out” of mental institutions and clinics who could no longer afford to care for them.  I wondered, was she mentally challenged, or had she just made unfortunate choices.

Our lives are completely based upon what we believe and what kind of choices we make.  If we believe the “crap” we learn when we are young (i.e., “you’re not good enough,” “you can’t do anything right,” “you’re bad,”  “you’re wrong,” or “you’re stupid”) we can be debilitated for life.

Once we reach adulthood (18-24ish) it is our responsibility to make conscious choices:

  • To Get real with ourselves.  To look ourselves squarely in the eye and own who we currently are, where we are currently at.  Nothing is wrong here.  No judgment here… just an acknowledgement of the current status of ourself
  • To stop blaming others for our emotional, physical, mental, intellectual and financial condition
  • To take responsibility for ourselves, our career, and our life
  • To learn how to emotionally grow up, to have adult boundaries, to problem solve, to communicate our desire at an adult level and to stop acting like a “reactive” toddler
  • To create the life we want to have through conscious choice, goal-setting and planning
  • To surround ourselves with a support community … people who will build us up… tell us the truth … challenge us to rise above… people who model excellence, stability, peace and success
  • To avoid bad influences and “friends” who will “pull you down” or “keep you down”… to “run” when we see them coming.  To stay away from CRAZY and CHAOS.
  • To “be” or “become” the person we wish to be, and keep working on it until we arrive at that place/space
  • To get a dream big enough to make us cry.  If your “why” doesn’t make you cry, it is not big enough.
  • To learn from mistakes and make better choices. To quit beating yourself up feeling worthless and just realize you can make better decisions. To realize that life is one big learning process, and there is nothing wrong.  We are continually getting “feedback” about what works or doesn’t work.  Feedback is NOT FAILURE … it is just feedback.  Feeback is simply new information to add into our formula for next time.
  • To stop acting like the victim and instead “be” or “become” empowered
  • To find people, resources, books, seminars, professionals to help us answer questions and shift our thought processes
  • To quit WHINING and looking for “sympathy” or a “rescuer” and move into action on our behalf
  • To take full responsibility for all the results of our decisions (good results and not so good results)
  • To figure out how to change what we don’t like about ourselves, our attitudes and our life

I wonder, if this poor woman had just smacked herself on the side of her head when she was 24, not listened to the senseless rhetoric stored in her brain recycling itself to her detriment, where would she be now?  What kind of car would she be driving?  What kind of house would she be living in?  Would she be married and have children in college or busy raising their own children? She surely wouldn’t be drudging across the street in a dirty hoodie.

HOW ARE YOUR CHOICES WORKING FOR YOU?  ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE RIGHT NOW?  IF NOT, WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO DO ABOUT IT?

We are all one decision, one choice away from ruin.  We are all one step away from being homeless.  Some would say, “But for the grace of God there I’d be.”  Our decisions are the structure, the foundation that creates our life.  

Each and every single one of us has the choice to BE who we want to be.  Unfortunately, many of us are not willing to do the work.  And, yes, it is “work” to undo all the “doing” of the early years (especially when it wasn’t “done” well).  It becomes a lot of thankless work with seemingly small or little result.   Patterns are hard to break.  Patterns of thinking and behavior are ingrained very deeply into our core. Without a PATTERN INTERRUPT that is big enough, no shift is likely to occur.

Some of the quickest ways I know to cut through the crap and reprogram yourself are Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Hypnosis.  Why would you need these kinds of techniques and intervention?  Frankly, these techniques help you to reprogram at the unconscious/subconscious level where all the early programming is stored.  What will take you 5 years in traditional counseling may take 5 minutes or 5 hours instead when one of these techniques are utilized.

Anyone competently trained in these techniques, combined with an intuitive gift for coaching can help you slice through years of negative, unproductive behavior in a short time.

You, as always, are in the driver’s seat of your life and you get to choose which road you drive.

Your mission, should you want it, and decide to accept it … is to become an empowered person living with limitless choices and endless possibility.

Call today 480-343-8700 to schedule your EFT, NLP or Hypnosis session.  Have the life you want.  Be the person you think you are (for real).

June 24, 2012

What is a Pattern Interrupt?

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NLP Pattern InterruptOver time, thinking the same thoughts and doing the same things can stymy creative thought and possibility creation. Not only do we frequently get stuck in the routines of thought and patterns of activity, but neurological patterns and conditioning are created. Neurologically stored patterns can be far more difficult to break or change, hence, the need for a pattern interrupt.

A pattern interrupt (also sometimes called a confusion technique) is an interruption, often unexpected, in the  flow or sequence of activity or thought. The purpose of such an interrupt is to allow for changes from the normal routine of activity and thought processes, to weaken an old strategy or repetitive thought process and to create a space for a new change, possibility or pattern imprinting.

Stress overeating can be a response to a patterned or conditioned thought process.  When a person who has this pattern neurologically embedded becomes stressed it would be possible to interrupt the pattern before the overeating starts.  At the first sign of stress, a predetermined activity can be initiated causing the offending stimulus to lose its effect and power.

In NLP and in life coaching a pattern interrupt is a powerful tool that disarms a person’s knee jerk defense mechanisms and programmed responses.  A pattern interrupt gives people the power to change their behaviors, actions, thoughts, opinions and decisions.  A pattern interrupt is generally something that is completely unexpected, provocative and attention grabbing.

To be clear, a pattern interrupt is not an installation of a new pattern, it merely creates the space for a new pattern to be generated. Pattern interrupts or breaks are generally time sensitive, meaning you  have little time to install a new pattern before your established neurological patterns resumes and you are back where you started.

 

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March 8, 2012

Pattern Interrupts: Doing What Works for You – Strategies for Success in Life

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Adam Bard, doing what works for him - Life coaching phoenix, embrace your brilliance, rhonda robbinsEveryone has an opinion, an idea, and a “way” you “should” do whatever it is you’re doing.  There’s always a “right” way and a “wrong” way.  The “right way” is usually my way, and you are usually wrong.  Right?

But how about doing what works for you?

Adam Bard, a 26 year old Canadian, does what works for him.  Who says software developers have no sense of humor?

He definitely interrupted his pattern of being by shaving off opposite sides of his hair and beard.

What would it take for you to interrupt unsuccessful patterns in your life?  To stop over-eating, to stop drinking too much, working too much, spending too much, sleeping too much, or procrastinating too much?

  • What would it take?
  • How could you get there?
  • Can you get there alone?
  • Do you have the tools, resources and support you need?
  • Can you sustain yourself in a new space of being?
  • Should you listen to everyone’s advice of what works, instead of listening to your own voice and instincts?

The problem with “behavior PATTERNS” is that they are PATTERNS. Behavior sets our “way of being.”  Behavior patterns are learned, stored behaviors.  We don’t have to think how we will respond to a driver cutting us off in traffic — that response is stored for us already… it is activated without our conscious thought.  Before we can consciously think how we CHOOSE to react, we have already reacted.

We are stressed… our reaction, to eat or drink.   How do we move past these stored responses into a more productive space with better tools to have greater success and power in all areas of our life?  How to we change environmental influences into positive behavior responses, and then subsequently turn positive behavior responses into skills and capabilities?

Well, for one thing… we must get out of our head …or get into our head…There are two ways to “interrupt patterns” and “change things up.”

We can make superhuman “conscious” efforts to change our patterns of thinking (though our patterns of thinking are deeply rooted in our belief system and our valuation of ourself).  We can recite affirmations, we can pray, surround ourselves with positive mantras, meditate and so forth.

Or we can effect change at the subsconscious/unconscious level through various types of tools, hypnosis, NLP (neuro linguistic programming), EFT (emotional freedom technique) and so forth.

It is important to realize that changing the 80-90% patterns storehouse will have a faster, greater impact on the behavior you wish to interrupt and change.

The Power of our mind, rhonda robbins, life coaching phoenix, embrace your brilliance

We create our environment by what we think about 

and our stored thoughts are even more important than our waking conscious thoughts, for they trigger automatically.

In essence, we are somewhat captive to the 80-90% that we have stored up in our memory banks until this moment  in time.

Is it time for you to do something drastic?  And not with your hair or your beard… but with who you’re being, how you’re being?

Isn’t it time to get some life-changing, powerful tools into your arsenal?

Set up your strategy for success today by giving us a call at Embrace Your Brilliance at 480-343-8700.  We would love to meet with you over the phone, in person or via the internet.

“The point of power is always in this present moment.”  (Louise Hay)