Embrace Your Brilliance

November 27, 2012

We Choose to Be Homeless at 60

Phoenix Life Coaching, NLP Life Coach - Homeless Woman
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Embrace Your Brilliance Life Coaching Phoenix - Homeless WomanThis morning as I was driving to the office, I watched an elderly woman shrouded in a dark brown-black skirt, a dirty black-brown hoodie, with her bare feet encased in skimpy sandals navigating the crosswalk in front of me.  Her demeanor was downcast, she was hunched over and her eyes were focused looking down at the pavement. Drudging slowing across the crosswalk, I wondered if she would make it to the other side before the light changed.

I found myself asking the question:  What kind of choices do we make to be homeless and dirty at 60 pushing a shopping cart?  I tried to imagine why she found herself in this pathetic situation.  Obviously, she was sleeping somewhere dirty, there were large spots of brown dirt on her hoodie.  How did she get there? I heard a statistic once that many of the homeless people became homeless because they had been “put out” of mental institutions and clinics who could no longer afford to care for them.  I wondered, was she mentally challenged, or had she just made unfortunate choices.

Our lives are completely based upon what we believe and what kind of choices we make.  If we believe the “crap” we learn when we are young (i.e., “you’re not good enough,” “you can’t do anything right,” “you’re bad,”  “you’re wrong,” or “you’re stupid”) we can be debilitated for life.

Once we reach adulthood (18-24ish) it is our responsibility to make conscious choices:

  • To Get real with ourselves.  To look ourselves squarely in the eye and own who we currently are, where we are currently at.  Nothing is wrong here.  No judgment here… just an acknowledgement of the current status of ourself
  • To stop blaming others for our emotional, physical, mental, intellectual and financial condition
  • To take responsibility for ourselves, our career, and our life
  • To learn how to emotionally grow up, to have adult boundaries, to problem solve, to communicate our desire at an adult level and to stop acting like a “reactive” toddler
  • To create the life we want to have through conscious choice, goal-setting and planning
  • To surround ourselves with a support community … people who will build us up… tell us the truth … challenge us to rise above… people who model excellence, stability, peace and success
  • To avoid bad influences and “friends” who will “pull you down” or “keep you down”… to “run” when we see them coming.  To stay away from CRAZY and CHAOS.
  • To “be” or “become” the person we wish to be, and keep working on it until we arrive at that place/space
  • To get a dream big enough to make us cry.  If your “why” doesn’t make you cry, it is not big enough.
  • To learn from mistakes and make better choices. To quit beating yourself up feeling worthless and just realize you can make better decisions. To realize that life is one big learning process, and there is nothing wrong.  We are continually getting “feedback” about what works or doesn’t work.  Feedback is NOT FAILURE … it is just feedback.  Feeback is simply new information to add into our formula for next time.
  • To stop acting like the victim and instead “be” or “become” empowered
  • To find people, resources, books, seminars, professionals to help us answer questions and shift our thought processes
  • To quit WHINING and looking for “sympathy” or a “rescuer” and move into action on our behalf
  • To take full responsibility for all the results of our decisions (good results and not so good results)
  • To figure out how to change what we don’t like about ourselves, our attitudes and our life

I wonder, if this poor woman had just smacked herself on the side of her head when she was 24, not listened to the senseless rhetoric stored in her brain recycling itself to her detriment, where would she be now?  What kind of car would she be driving?  What kind of house would she be living in?  Would she be married and have children in college or busy raising their own children? She surely wouldn’t be drudging across the street in a dirty hoodie.

HOW ARE YOUR CHOICES WORKING FOR YOU?  ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE RIGHT NOW?  IF NOT, WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO DO ABOUT IT?

We are all one decision, one choice away from ruin.  We are all one step away from being homeless.  Some would say, “But for the grace of God there I’d be.”  Our decisions are the structure, the foundation that creates our life.  

Each and every single one of us has the choice to BE who we want to be.  Unfortunately, many of us are not willing to do the work.  And, yes, it is “work” to undo all the “doing” of the early years (especially when it wasn’t “done” well).  It becomes a lot of thankless work with seemingly small or little result.   Patterns are hard to break.  Patterns of thinking and behavior are ingrained very deeply into our core. Without a PATTERN INTERRUPT that is big enough, no shift is likely to occur.

Some of the quickest ways I know to cut through the crap and reprogram yourself are Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Hypnosis.  Why would you need these kinds of techniques and intervention?  Frankly, these techniques help you to reprogram at the unconscious/subconscious level where all the early programming is stored.  What will take you 5 years in traditional counseling may take 5 minutes or 5 hours instead when one of these techniques are utilized.

Anyone competently trained in these techniques, combined with an intuitive gift for coaching can help you slice through years of negative, unproductive behavior in a short time.

You, as always, are in the driver’s seat of your life and you get to choose which road you drive.

Your mission, should you want it, and decide to accept it … is to become an empowered person living with limitless choices and endless possibility.

Call today 480-343-8700 to schedule your EFT, NLP or Hypnosis session.  Have the life you want.  Be the person you think you are (for real).

June 24, 2012

What is a Pattern Interrupt?

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NLP Pattern InterruptOver time, thinking the same thoughts and doing the same things can stymy creative thought and possibility creation. Not only do we frequently get stuck in the routines of thought and patterns of activity, but neurological patterns and conditioning are created. Neurologically stored patterns can be far more difficult to break or change, hence, the need for a pattern interrupt.

A pattern interrupt (also sometimes called a confusion technique) is an interruption, often unexpected, in the  flow or sequence of activity or thought. The purpose of such an interrupt is to allow for changes from the normal routine of activity and thought processes, to weaken an old strategy or repetitive thought process and to create a space for a new change, possibility or pattern imprinting.

Stress overeating can be a response to a patterned or conditioned thought process.  When a person who has this pattern neurologically embedded becomes stressed it would be possible to interrupt the pattern before the overeating starts.  At the first sign of stress, a predetermined activity can be initiated causing the offending stimulus to lose its effect and power.

In NLP and in life coaching a pattern interrupt is a powerful tool that disarms a person’s knee jerk defense mechanisms and programmed responses.  A pattern interrupt gives people the power to change their behaviors, actions, thoughts, opinions and decisions.  A pattern interrupt is generally something that is completely unexpected, provocative and attention grabbing.

To be clear, a pattern interrupt is not an installation of a new pattern, it merely creates the space for a new pattern to be generated. Pattern interrupts or breaks are generally time sensitive, meaning you  have little time to install a new pattern before your established neurological patterns resumes and you are back where you started.

 

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Rhonda Robbins, speaker, teacher, certified life coach and NLP practitioner has been providing transformational life changing services and personality training to hundreds of individuals, businesses and groups for over ten years.  Rhonda owns and operates, Embrace Your Brilliance, and is available for one-on-one coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google+ Hangout or Yahoo Video Call. You can call me directly at 480-343-8700 or email me at yes@embraceyourbrilliance.co to set up a time for a session, or to ask a question.

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April 29, 2012

#RestaurantImpossible Transformational Principles Can Teach Us How To Transform Ourselves

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#Restaurant-Impossible Transformational Principles Can Teach Us How To Transform Ourselves. Wouldn’t it be awesome if someone could swoop in and and in 48 hours with $10,000 transform our lives and thought processes?

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Restaurant Impossible Life Coaching Principles for Quick TransformationI have been watching a lot of “Restaurant Impossible” lately on the #FOODNETWORK for a couple of reasons:  (1) Chef #Robert-Irvine is attractive,  muscular, and hot — and  (2) for the intrigue – he is an “in your face” straight shooter, “take no prisoners,” tell-it-like-it-is, choleric magician who transforms failing restaurants in two days with $10,000.  It is always fun to see what he can do in two days and how close to the wire he cuts it!

Irvine uses his creativity, experience and resourcefulness as he descends on failing restaurants like a whirlwind  — moving and shaking everything up, interrupting all kinds of #behavioral patterns that are not working.  Irvine  transforms the menu, the interior, ramps up marketing, retrains management and staff — causing paradigm shifts for everyone.

One theme I noticed throughout each of the restaurant makeovers I watched is that he calls each and every restaurant owner to step up and to #be-responsible and accountable for where they find themselves (in debt and failing).  Irvine uncovers their areas of weakness — and in open, direct and authentic conversation addresses key weaknesses with management staff and owners,  asking them if they are ready to “step it up.”

Irvine wants to “teach” them what they need to know to run a successful business.  [He doesn’t just want to “rescue” them from where there presently are, he wants to teach them skills that will sustain them and cause them to be prosperous.]  Much as the saying, “give a man a fish, you feed him for a day, teach him to fish, you feed him for life.”

Irvine’s repeatedly themes are:

  • there are no clearly defined roles here
  • no one has any accountability
  • there is no one in charge, no one managing what is happening
  • you have to know what your costs are, what your money is buying and where it going
Irvine follows-up with the restaurant owners in various time intervals (3 month, 2 years, etc.) to see if “rescuing” them had any long-term stickiness.

 

Wow! Transformation by storm!

Wouldn’t it be awesome if someone could swoop in and 48 hours and $10,000 later we experienced transformed lives and thought processes?

I’m in.  Are you?

Surprisingly, the same transformational principles Irvine uses as he performs a restaurant makeovers are the same principles that can transform our lives:

  • we must have a clearly defined sense of who we are and what our function/role we choose to play in life
  • we must be personally accountable for ourselves, actions, words, and thoughts
  • we must be “in charge” of ourselves, our choices and our results
  • we must know what we want, why we want it, and how we will get it
So, too, must we  use our creativity, experience and resourcefulness to shake up and change our lives — interrupting old constraining patterns and core beliefs that no longer serve us.  In their place we can install tools that move us forward, change our perception and perspective of people and situations.

 

 

“We don’t have to be psychics to predict our future… all we need do is look at our past.”

 

Are you ready to interrupt non-serving patterns and behaviors and learn the skills and techniques you need to move you forward?  You have all your own answers inside of you!  Like Irvine, I want to teach you and share with you principles and success strategies enabling you to live powerfully with limitless choices.

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Rhonda Robbins, Success Strategies Coach, NLP Practitioner, Personality Trainer and Certified Life Coach is always available for one-on-one business or personal coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google Voice or Yahoo Video Call. You can email her at rhonda@embraceyourbrilliance.co or call/text to 480-343-8700.

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