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May 3, 2012

Having Trouble Getting Motivated?

Success Strategies Coaching - Are You Having Trouble Getting Motivated?

Having Trouble Getting Motivated? Take a look at the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, and figure out how much stress and which stress events you have.

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I think we all find ourselves struggling with motivation at one time or another.

There are varying reasons for not having enough energy or motivation in our lives. And, no, it isn’t because we are just lazy!

Off the cuff, here are a few reasons I can think of for not being motivated:

  • Incomplete projects (which haunt and exact a toll on us, even in our subconscious mind!)
  • Stress (too many stresses and/or directions, projects, events, tasks or people to manage or please)
  • Trying to comply with all the “SHOULDs,” “MUSTs,” “NEED-TOs,” and “HAVE-TOs”
  • Too many people plugged into us, taking our energy, not giving back
  • Not enough people, activities in our life to keep us nourished, nurtured and keeping our love banks full
  • Not having a supportive circle of friends (who are positively motivated)
  • Continually being surrounded by negative people
  • Working in a career field or a job that does not interest or energize us
  • Not eating properly, not getting correct nutrition or exercise

I think that spells out a pretty clear picture of the some of the reasons we are not motivated. If you are having trouble determining reason for stress, check out the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, and realize, even GOOD things can be stressful! The Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale is a measurement of how many stressful events have happened to you in one year and the possible effect on your physical health.

While the scale does not give an indication as to the emotional or mental impact of the stress, I believe you can make that hyper-jump yourself.

Now… how to get motivated?

  1. Look at the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, and figure out how much stress and which stress events you have. Eliminate or neutralize the ones that are possible, and realize the others have a deadline, termination date or death sentence. For example, you will not be pregnant forever. Also important, we can be the executioner of many of them. We can choose to eradicate many of them by our choices and activities.
  2. Make a list of all incomplete projects, set a deadline for them, and begin to complete them ASAP. Not only will you feel a sense of satisfaction, you will likely feel more energized.
  3. Think of yourself as a power strip. Who is plugged into you and stripping you of precious emotional and physical energy? Evaluate your relationships, determine who is draining your energy and get rid of any deadwood. Stop the needless theft of your energy and time. Focus.
  4. Build, or enlarge your circle of supportive friends; people who are very POSITIVE and who care about you.
  5. Evaluate all the “SHOULDs,” “MUSTs,” “NEED-TOs,” and “HAVE-TOs” going in your mind or coming out of your mouth. Instead of saying, “I should ______,” substitute the word SHOULD with WANT. Now when you say, “I want to _________,” evaluate — do you really WANT to? Decide if you are feeling self-pressure or other pressure to do this thing, then choose what you really WANT to do.

Hope this helps you to evaluate some of the potential reasons you are not feeling motivated.

 

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Rhonda Robbins, Success Strategies Coach, NLP Practitioner, Personality Trainer and Certified Life Coach is always available for one-on-one business or personal coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google Voice or Yahoo Video Call. You can email her at rhonda@embraceyourbrilliance.co or call/text to 480-343-8700.

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April 30, 2012

“Meaning Making Machines” Can Choose Now vs. Then

Meaning Making Machines Success Strategies Coaching

#Meaning-Making-Machines. What keeps us in ineffective jobs, careers, relationships that makes us inert; unable to make chg

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Meaning Making Machine Success Strategies CoachingI am always amazed by people’s reactions when they are let go or laid off from a company. Quite often the person has a sense of entitlement due to longevity at the company which presents itself in an angry response.  The meaning that is attached to the event often has little to do with the actual event.

I have heard people say things like:

“Oh, I have been here 3 years and they are letting me go and keeping you, and you have only been here 5 months!”

“Yeah, well good luck to you here working here!”

“Why are you letting me go? So and So doesn’t do any work, and you’re letting me go?!”

On Accountant said, “Well, I knew things were bad, but not this bad!” (and he took care of the finances. uh, duh.)

Personally, I was laid off from a computer parts manufacturer from inside the technical writing department. I was completely in shock when it happened, but admittedly, I knew in my core, deep down in my soul that it had been time to move on for a while. My intuition had been nagging me for months and I had ignored it until that moment presented itself.  Feelings experienced after being laid off range from shock, fear, anger, anxiety and depression.

What is it that keeps us in jobs, careers or relationships that makes us inert; unable to make a change?

  • What is it inside us that decides we “deserve” this job and we are “entitled” to continue to work there?
  • Don’t the employers get to decide what works to make their company a viable concern?
  • Don’t they get to determine whose skill set is what is needed at at this moment?
  • Isn’t it their business and their choice?
  • We haven’t put capital on the line, taken out a loan or mortgaged our personal lives to fund a business.
  • We haven’t gone and sought investors or drummed up clients to pay for the services or products to make the business profitable.
  • We have nothing on the line  — and yet — we feel entitled.
  • Hmmmm, there is something to coach around.

We all have comfort factors and build protective cushions around ourselves. We may even create our own reality about events that is far from the truth. Finally, we have a tendency to attach meaning and stories to everything that touches our lives.  Some would even go so far as to say we are “meaning-making-machines,” and we attach  meaning to everything that happens in and around us. Typically the meaning we attach has to do with the tape made by our”subconscious mind recorder” at some earlier time in our lives. Every time something happens our subconscious mind finds the matching tape and automatically plays it — whereupon we react once again to it!  We have incredible minds and our mind does an amazing job of “protecting” us by recycling old tapes over and over again in an attempt to protect us.

As thinking people, we have a choice — we can allow our mind to continue its reactionary responses (which may or may not serve us) or we can make a different choice NOW.  When the subconscious response is triggered we can choose to allow the reaction or respond differently. We have a new opportunity to change our frame, to change our programming.  Our responses have been with us forever, does that make them accurate?  Does a longevity mean it serves us and is is viable today?  That is the big question we get to ask ourselves:

“How is this response pattern working for me today?”  “Is it serving me?”  “Am I in congruence with this response?”  “Is this a response I want to have?

We become very comfortable, perhaps even complacent in our lives and actions.  Often we just stay put and don’t move into action

  1. when we feel we should
  2. when our gut and intuition is telling us to move or run
  3. because we are comfortable, fearful, or have no idea what to do next.
  4. We have no plan and can’t seem to put a plan together, so we stay and wait for the inevitable, which comes to our dismay.

Today is a good day to assess and reassess your reactions not only to a stressor like being laid off, but to the ordinary stimuli, life and relationships in our daily lives.  When you find response patterns that are not serving you move into action to change things to improve your lives.

2/3/2011

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Rhonda Robbins, Success Strategies Coach, NLP Practitioner, Personality Trainer and Certified Life Coach is always available for one-on-one business or personal coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google Voice or Yahoo Video Call. You can email her at rhonda@embraceyourbrilliance.co or call/text to 480-343-8700.

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April 26, 2012

We Hear What We Want to Hear and Tell Ourselves What We Want to Believe

Life Coaching Phoenix: We hear what we want to hear - More importantly we create who we want to be

We are a funny people. We are wired to want to hear only good about ourselves. That wiring sometimes stops us from being in reality about what is so and creating what could be.

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Life Coaching Phoenix: We hear what we want to hear - More importantly we create who we want to be
I just received a joke in my email from a friend of mine. The joke goes like this:

A man’s wife had just bought a new line of expensive cosmetics guaranteed to make her look years younger.  She sat in front of the mirror, for what had to be hours, applying the “miracle” products.

Finally, when she was done, she turned to her husband and asked, “Darling, honestly now, what age would you say I am?”

He nodded his head in assessment, and carefully said, “Well, judging from your skin, twenty.

Your hair, eighteen.

Your figure, twenty-five.”

“Oh, you’re so sweet!” gushed the wife.

“Well, hang on,” he replied, “I’m not finished adding it up yet.”

We are a funny people. We are wired to want to hear only good about ourselves.  That wiring sometimes stops us from being in reality about what is so and creating what could be.

When we are not genuine with ourselves about who we are, who we are being and what we are “really” up to in life, we cannot create limitless possibilities, generate and manifest the success or abundance we are seeking.

Just as the woman in the joke with all the creams, she spent hours bathing herself in these creams in an attempt to cover or mask the reality of her age and physical condition.  So we, too, put up smokescreens and apply masks and blinders as to where we really are.

Only when we can breakthrough the self-emposed chains of our thoughts can we live into our limitless possibility.

What will it take for you to face yourself?  Will you need a guide, a confidant, a listener?

Step up, step into your life, grab it and run with passion toward your abundance.

 

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Rhonda Robbins, Success Strategies Coach, NLP Practitioner, Personality Trainer and Certified Life Coach is always available for one-on-one business or personal coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google Voice or Yahoo Video Call. You can email her at rhonda@embraceyourbrilliance.co or call/text to 480-343-8700.

Copyright © 2012, Rhonda Robbins. All rights reserved.
No part of this publication/blog may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means — electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other — except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the author.