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November 27, 2012

We Choose to Be Homeless at 60

Phoenix Life Coaching, NLP Life Coach - Homeless Woman
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Embrace Your Brilliance Life Coaching Phoenix - Homeless WomanThis morning as I was driving to the office, I watched an elderly woman shrouded in a dark brown-black skirt, a dirty black-brown hoodie, with her bare feet encased in skimpy sandals navigating the crosswalk in front of me.  Her demeanor was downcast, she was hunched over and her eyes were focused looking down at the pavement. Drudging slowing across the crosswalk, I wondered if she would make it to the other side before the light changed.

I found myself asking the question:  What kind of choices do we make to be homeless and dirty at 60 pushing a shopping cart?  I tried to imagine why she found herself in this pathetic situation.  Obviously, she was sleeping somewhere dirty, there were large spots of brown dirt on her hoodie.  How did she get there? I heard a statistic once that many of the homeless people became homeless because they had been “put out” of mental institutions and clinics who could no longer afford to care for them.  I wondered, was she mentally challenged, or had she just made unfortunate choices.

Our lives are completely based upon what we believe and what kind of choices we make.  If we believe the “crap” we learn when we are young (i.e., “you’re not good enough,” “you can’t do anything right,” “you’re bad,”  “you’re wrong,” or “you’re stupid”) we can be debilitated for life.

Once we reach adulthood (18-24ish) it is our responsibility to make conscious choices:

  • To Get real with ourselves.  To look ourselves squarely in the eye and own who we currently are, where we are currently at.  Nothing is wrong here.  No judgment here… just an acknowledgement of the current status of ourself
  • To stop blaming others for our emotional, physical, mental, intellectual and financial condition
  • To take responsibility for ourselves, our career, and our life
  • To learn how to emotionally grow up, to have adult boundaries, to problem solve, to communicate our desire at an adult level and to stop acting like a “reactive” toddler
  • To create the life we want to have through conscious choice, goal-setting and planning
  • To surround ourselves with a support community … people who will build us up… tell us the truth … challenge us to rise above… people who model excellence, stability, peace and success
  • To avoid bad influences and “friends” who will “pull you down” or “keep you down”… to “run” when we see them coming.  To stay away from CRAZY and CHAOS.
  • To “be” or “become” the person we wish to be, and keep working on it until we arrive at that place/space
  • To get a dream big enough to make us cry.  If your “why” doesn’t make you cry, it is not big enough.
  • To learn from mistakes and make better choices. To quit beating yourself up feeling worthless and just realize you can make better decisions. To realize that life is one big learning process, and there is nothing wrong.  We are continually getting “feedback” about what works or doesn’t work.  Feedback is NOT FAILURE … it is just feedback.  Feeback is simply new information to add into our formula for next time.
  • To stop acting like the victim and instead “be” or “become” empowered
  • To find people, resources, books, seminars, professionals to help us answer questions and shift our thought processes
  • To quit WHINING and looking for “sympathy” or a “rescuer” and move into action on our behalf
  • To take full responsibility for all the results of our decisions (good results and not so good results)
  • To figure out how to change what we don’t like about ourselves, our attitudes and our life

I wonder, if this poor woman had just smacked herself on the side of her head when she was 24, not listened to the senseless rhetoric stored in her brain recycling itself to her detriment, where would she be now?  What kind of car would she be driving?  What kind of house would she be living in?  Would she be married and have children in college or busy raising their own children? She surely wouldn’t be drudging across the street in a dirty hoodie.

HOW ARE YOUR CHOICES WORKING FOR YOU?  ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE RIGHT NOW?  IF NOT, WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO DO ABOUT IT?

We are all one decision, one choice away from ruin.  We are all one step away from being homeless.  Some would say, “But for the grace of God there I’d be.”  Our decisions are the structure, the foundation that creates our life.  

Each and every single one of us has the choice to BE who we want to be.  Unfortunately, many of us are not willing to do the work.  And, yes, it is “work” to undo all the “doing” of the early years (especially when it wasn’t “done” well).  It becomes a lot of thankless work with seemingly small or little result.   Patterns are hard to break.  Patterns of thinking and behavior are ingrained very deeply into our core. Without a PATTERN INTERRUPT that is big enough, no shift is likely to occur.

Some of the quickest ways I know to cut through the crap and reprogram yourself are Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Hypnosis.  Why would you need these kinds of techniques and intervention?  Frankly, these techniques help you to reprogram at the unconscious/subconscious level where all the early programming is stored.  What will take you 5 years in traditional counseling may take 5 minutes or 5 hours instead when one of these techniques are utilized.

Anyone competently trained in these techniques, combined with an intuitive gift for coaching can help you slice through years of negative, unproductive behavior in a short time.

You, as always, are in the driver’s seat of your life and you get to choose which road you drive.

Your mission, should you want it, and decide to accept it … is to become an empowered person living with limitless choices and endless possibility.

Call today 480-343-8700 to schedule your EFT, NLP or Hypnosis session.  Have the life you want.  Be the person you think you are (for real).

September 7, 2012

Fall Boutique, Networking and Party

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Register and get your tickets

Embrace Your Brilliance Fall Festival & Boutique

Bring your friends, neighbors, relatives, co-workers to the only party where you bring cash back home!

That’s right, bring any gold and/or platinum that you no longer want… get cash back!

Rhonda Robbins Hosts a Jay's Gold Party

There will be five fabulous booths, plenty of food and fun.

 

Don’t miss the demonstrations, the chair massages, the glitzy jewelry, the “Yoooo….what’s in your blood?” live demonstration, amazing anti-aging skin crème and ultimate nutritional supplement.

 

Bring your swimsuit to hang out afterward and enjoy the pool or the indoor jacuzzi/spa!

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Jay Rosenberg:   will evaluate your treasure and antiques and give you cash up to Up to 85% of value based on the purity and weight of your items.  Dig deep and find those hidden or lost pieces of buried in your house.

Now is the time to “cash in” your unwanted gold and platinum, and maybe book your own party!  Check out the videos of many happy, happy women who were shocked about their payouts!  http://jaysgoldparty.com/

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Lia Sophia & Protandim

Inside:  Learn about the advantages of Protandim, a scientific breakthrough that reduces cell aging in 30 days.  See why numerous universities have initiated and funded their own studies investigating the anti-aging and health promoting capabilities of Protandim, at www.abcliveit.com! (ABC Primetime Report — watch this video!)

Outside:  Give your wardrobe a “facelift” with high quality lia sophia fashion jewelry, all at 50% off!

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Because Nerium SkinCare™ is devoted to creating only products that produce real results, actual scientific clinical trials were performed on NeriumAD Age-Defying Treatment by ST&T Research, the prominent 3rd party research firm. Results averaged an amazing 30-50% reduction in the appearance of:

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–  Aging or Sun-Damaged Skin

 

To check out the amazing results real participants achieved watch an informative video and view the Results Gallery at http://kathdeanda.nerium.com/Results.aspx

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Blood Microscopy

Nutritional Microscopy could reveal past and present imbalances, as well as predict future imbalances, which may be the cause of serious health problems.

Blood pH is directly related to the overall health of every person.  Nutritional Microscopy provides a unique and precise scientific method of assessing the true wellness of this unseen, and often overlooked, internal environment.

Cutting-edge technology is used to perform the following two blood assessment tests: Live Brightfield Phase Contrast and Mycotoxic Oxidative Stress Test. These tests enable a Certified Nutritional Microscopist to analyze your living blood right before your eyes!

http://www.scienceandnutrition.net/whats-nutritional-microscopy.html

It’s a wrap.

Its a Wrap - Body Wrap

The body detoxification wraps are all natural made with a botanical and essential oil lotion that is site specific to the area that it is applied. It can be applied anywhere you would like to tone, firm and tighten.  http://www.scienceandnutrition.net/body-wraps-and-suppliments.html

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Tara:  Chair Massage (free chair massage — first come — first serve)

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Tara Breniser owns Live Well Therapeutic Massage and offers an integrated approach based on individual needs that will induce relaxation, rejuvenation and pain relief.  Specialized in: Deep Tissue, Swedish Relaxation, Pregnancy, Lymphatic Drainage, Hot Stone Massage, Scrubs & Body Wraps.  For full list of services offered in my office, please find me at livewelltm.com.  I look forward to meeting you!

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Rhonda Robbins, speaker, teacher, certified life coach and NLP practitioner has been providing transformational life changing services and personality training to hundreds of individuals, businesses and groups for over ten years.  Rhonda owns and operates, Embrace Your Brilliance, and is available for one-on-one coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google+ Hangout or Yahoo Video Call. You can call me directly at 480-343-8700 or email me at yes@embraceyourbrilliance.co to set up a time for a session, or to ask a question.

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June 26, 2012

Hot Summer Coming: Who Invented the First Car Air Conditioner?

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Life Coaching Air Conditioning JokeIN HOT SUMMER COMING YOU CAN BE THANKFUL FOR THESE BROTHERS?

Did you know that the Goldberg Brothers  were the  inventors of the automobile air conditioner?

Here’s a little factoid for automotive buffs or just to dazzle your friends.

The four Goldberg brothers: Lowell, Norman, Hiram and Max, invented and developed the first automobile air-conditioner in 1946.

July 17, 1946, the temperature in Detroit was 97 degrees when the four brothers walked into old man Henry Ford’s office and sweet-talked his secretary into telling him that four gentlemen were there with the most exciting innovation in the auto industry since the electric starter.

Henry was curious and invited them into his office. They refused and instead asked that he come out to the parking lot to their car. They persuaded him to get into the car, which was about 130 degrees, turned on the air conditioner, and cooled the car off immediately.

The old man got very excited and invited them back to the office, where he offered them $3 million for the patent.

The brothers refused, saying they would settle for $2 million, but they wanted the recognition by having a label, ‘The Goldberg Air-Conditioner,’ on the dashboard of each car in which it was installed.

Old man Ford was not willing to put the Goldberg’s name on two million Fords and so they haggled back and forth for about two hours and finally agreed on $4 million  — and that just their first names would be shown.

And so to this day, all Ford air conditioners show — Lo, Norm, Hi, and Max — on the controls.

Hope you had a good laugh, and a good day.

Laughter keeps us in a good frame in our lives and day.  Enjoy your day and cause it to be the kind of day you can revel in!

Rhonda

 

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Rhonda Robbins, speaker, teacher, certified life coach and NLP practitioner has been providing transformational life changing services and personality training to hundreds of individuals, businesses and groups for over ten years.  Rhonda owns and operates, Embrace Your Brilliance, and is available for one-on-one coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google+ Hangout or Yahoo Video Call. You can call me directly at 480-343-8700 or email me at yes@embraceyourbrilliance.co to set up a time for a session, or to ask a question.

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June 25, 2012

10 Suggestions to Help You Resolve Conflicts

Conflict Resolution Guidelines for Life Coaches from Rhonda Robbins
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Conflict Resolution Guidelines for Life Coaches from Rhonda RobbinsWe all find ourselves faced with conflict at one time or another.  These suggestions may help you bring power and resolution to an upset.  Usually when we are confronted with a conflict our emotional responses are quickly triggered.

Find power and choice by employing these guidelines:

1. Timing is critical – it is unwise to attempt to solve conflict when emotions are running very high.  When you find yourself involved in an “emotionally-charged” confrontation or conflict with another, suggest  that you schedule a time to discuss and resolve the conflict.

2. Be Open and Honest – remember the reason you are having a conflict is because you both had a different idea or opinion about something.  When you attempt to resolve the conflict its helps if you are willing to listen carefully and hear the other person’s point of view. When you are not concerned with being “right” or “winning” you are empowered and open to other possibilities.  Being open and honest allows for compromise and resolution.

3. Share Common Goals – find the common ground.  Remember you are both seeking the same goal — a relationship win. This is not a power struggle.

4. Use Active Listening Skills – using active listening and allowing the other to speak freely without interruption sets a good basis for a win-win situation.  Acknowledge what the other person has said and indicate that you heard and understood them.

5. Avoid YOU Statements – Using you statements is inflammatory and suggests you are blaming the other person.  Using “I” statements sets an safe tone and allows the other to know how you feel when you speak in the first person, e.g.,  “I feel sad when we disagree”. “You” statements will get you nowhere fast and may escalate the situation.

6. Speak and behave in a calm manner – in combination with the other suggestions above, this helps move the discussion forward to resolution.   Seek a win-win outcome.

7. Allow for Breaks or Time-outs – when emotions become too strong, either person can request a “time-out.” A time-out is a better choice than allowing the conflict to escalate and become unmanageable.

8. Brainstorm Solutions – there is generally more than one way to accomplish something.  Together you can collaborate about possible solutions to the conflict.  Do not discard ideas as stupid, but rather employ typical brain storming strategy in which all solutions are noted, and let the good ones rise to the top through discussion.

9. Leave the Past in the Past – anything that is not connected with the current conflict should not be discussed.  Stay in the present moment with the current topic.  Bringing up the past does not help you when attempting resolving conflicts. Instead bringing up the past just gives you more than one topic or problem to try to resolve.  Stay focused and stay in the present.

lO.  Be Willing to Consider Compromise – Be willing to meet in the middle and to find comfortable, acceptable common ground. It is rare that conflicts end up on one side or the other.

 

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Rhonda Robbins, speaker, teacher, certified life coach and NLP practitioner has been providing transformational life changing services and personality training to hundreds of individuals, businesses and groups for over ten years.  Rhonda owns and operates, Embrace Your Brilliance, and is available for one-on-one coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google+ Hangout or Yahoo Video Call. You can call me directly at 480-343-8700 or email me at yes@embraceyourbrilliance.co to set up a time for a session, or to ask a question.

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June 24, 2012

What is a Pattern Interrupt?

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NLP Pattern InterruptOver time, thinking the same thoughts and doing the same things can stymy creative thought and possibility creation. Not only do we frequently get stuck in the routines of thought and patterns of activity, but neurological patterns and conditioning are created. Neurologically stored patterns can be far more difficult to break or change, hence, the need for a pattern interrupt.

A pattern interrupt (also sometimes called a confusion technique) is an interruption, often unexpected, in the  flow or sequence of activity or thought. The purpose of such an interrupt is to allow for changes from the normal routine of activity and thought processes, to weaken an old strategy or repetitive thought process and to create a space for a new change, possibility or pattern imprinting.

Stress overeating can be a response to a patterned or conditioned thought process.  When a person who has this pattern neurologically embedded becomes stressed it would be possible to interrupt the pattern before the overeating starts.  At the first sign of stress, a predetermined activity can be initiated causing the offending stimulus to lose its effect and power.

In NLP and in life coaching a pattern interrupt is a powerful tool that disarms a person’s knee jerk defense mechanisms and programmed responses.  A pattern interrupt gives people the power to change their behaviors, actions, thoughts, opinions and decisions.  A pattern interrupt is generally something that is completely unexpected, provocative and attention grabbing.

To be clear, a pattern interrupt is not an installation of a new pattern, it merely creates the space for a new pattern to be generated. Pattern interrupts or breaks are generally time sensitive, meaning you  have little time to install a new pattern before your established neurological patterns resumes and you are back where you started.

 

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Rhonda Robbins, speaker, teacher, certified life coach and NLP practitioner has been providing transformational life changing services and personality training to hundreds of individuals, businesses and groups for over ten years.  Rhonda owns and operates, Embrace Your Brilliance, and is available for one-on-one coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google+ Hangout or Yahoo Video Call. You can call me directly at 480-343-8700 or email me at yes@embraceyourbrilliance.co to set up a time for a session, or to ask a question.

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June 24, 2012

5 Skills for Empowering People

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Empowering PeopleWhether we are life coaches, managers, mothers, fathers or friends we often want to “empower” others.  Individuals may grow up not being acknowledged, complimented or celebrated which results in their inability to hear, receive or believe positive feedback and compliments.

In this blog I will discuss 7 skills that can be used to help empower and strengthen others.   You can use these same skills to empower yourself.

1. Focus, acknowledge and compliment strengths.  Most of us are guilty of focusing others’ weaknesses or perceived failures instead of their strengths.   Help the other person by focus on what they are doing correctly.  Ask them what things are going well for them?  Ask them what they feel they have done well in the pas week or month?  Help them remember and celebrate their “wins.”  Ask if they helped someone to achieve a positive result?  Were they “there” when a friend needed someone to have their back?  Ask them to remember achievements and strengths.

At work, if you are the manager, be sure to acknowledge (and if possible in front of coworkers) when your employee has done something well.  Compliment effort. Compliment intention to provide value.  Compliment them on their commitment and loyalty.  Compliment them on creativity.  Encouragement and compliments go a long way.  Everyone has something you can compliment them for.

When people feel empowered, validated, confident and valuable it is much easier for them to review, admit and work on areas of challenge.

2. Standing for Another – being an advocate.  There is no more powerful way to empower a person than ‘standing with’ them or ‘standing for’ them and their possibilities they wish to create.

When we stand for another, we remind them of their stated goals and their power to achieve them.  Standing “for” another can give them a renewed energy and focus to move forward with power toward their goals, a more fulfilling life and toward achieving their full potential.  We stand for them, being their advocate when they have temporarily lost their focus.

3. Reframing.  Everyone has a “story,”  Everyone constructs “stories” everyday that help them makes sense out of interactions and behaviors.   In our attempt to synthesize and understand the world and relationships around us we construct these stories and attach our perceived meaning of the story.  In essence, we are meaning-making-machines and story-tellers.  The art of reframing is the interjection of a different point of view or possibility.

When we can “move” someone into a place of trying on new possibilities, we open a whole world of opportunity for them.  The best way to help someone reframe an event is to ASK QUESTIONS, not give your opinions or viewpoints about what happened.   Installing new positively charged language for the old language helps us change-up the story we are telling ourselves.

Reframing involves changing the context, behavior or motivation of the story.  For instance, in NLP we often ask clients who are remembering (or recounting) a stressful situation with an angry person to try to image that person talking with a cartoon characters voice.   By doing this it takes the emotional charge out of the story and the person can then deal more with the facts of what happened than the emotions.

Reframing is about seeing something differently and putting a new spin on it; taking a negative and putting it into a positive frame.  Reframes are compelling and powerful.

4.  Don’t make others wrong.  When we make others wrong we judge them… they shrink, run,  and resist.  We are left holding an emotional bag of upset, anger and defensiveness.  Over and over again in my coaching practice, I hear people say, “my husband SHOULD,”  “they NEED TO,”  “They MUST …”

We all think we know what is best for another (a child, a family member, friend or coworker).  “If they  would only listen to me,” is a common mantra.  The real truth is that we are not “tasked” with making another person’s life “work.”  We DO NOT KNOW what is best for them, what the best course or path for them is, we do not know what music or possibility they have inside of them, nor do we know what their purpose or mission in life is.  When we “think” we do, we are attempting to ‘control’ another.   Control is not helpful or loving.

In life coaching, one of the very presuppositions is that every person holds their own keys to answers and success in their lives.  No one else has their keys and answers… just them.  The coaches responsibility is to help the client discover and bring forth their answers.  Wouldn’t it be great if parents and managers and friends could help those close to them also bring forth “what is inside” of the other?

In NLP there is a presupposition that states, “that everyone is always doing their best with the resources and to them.”  This is a powerful presupposition.  It is not necessarily a truth, but a presupposition.  If we could suppose that this is true, what becomes available to us and to them?  If we could believe that everyone is always doing their best what becomes possible for us and for them?

5.  Possibility thinking – bridging the gap.  Possibility thinking is what helps us bridge the gap from where we are now and where we want to be.  Being in the middle of the gap can be frustrating, perhaps even disabling.  We can know where we want to go, but have no clue how to jump to the other side.  People you know and interact with daily are stuck in the middle of that gap, too.  People are often stuck in patterns of behavior and ways of being that were once fine and served them well, but are now constraining and hindering.

Very often a “pattern interrupt” is what is required to break the habit of thinking the way we have always been thinking, to think and create something new.

If you drive to work using one path each day, mix it up.  If you always have the same morning routing, mix it up.  If you have the same process or procedures at work, be willing to ask staff how it can be mixed up and made better.  Be willing to try and explore new and even crazy ideas.

Breaking patterns, ways of thinking and ways of being give you the creative space to launch new possibilities.

 

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Rhonda Robbins, speaker, teacher, certified life coach and NLP practitioner has been providing transformational life changing services and personality training to hundreds of individuals, businesses and groups for over ten years.  Rhonda owns and operates, Embrace Your Brilliance, and is available for one-on-one coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google+ Hangout or Yahoo Video Call. You can call me directly at 480-343-8700 or email me at yes@embraceyourbrilliance.co to set up a time for a session, or to ask a question.

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June 22, 2012

Did You Know There are 6 Types of Conversations?

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We use six different types of conversation daily.  What kind of communication is “best-serving” you?

1.  Sharing.  When we share, we communicate what we are thinking and how we are currently feeling.  It is essentially a snapshot of where you are right now.  Powerful people (including coaches) ask about how you are and what is going on.  This doesn’t mean that they want to listen to a diary of blow-by-blow events, usually a short, concise summary will be sufficient.  When people give quick superficial answers or go into long details both responses conceal who you are in this moment.  When people you are connecting with attempt either of these tactics ask them to be genuine in this moment and not give a report or an expected quick response.  Ask the other person to condense or expand the communication accordingly.  Candid, yet brief sharing is the goal.

When individuals connect in an authentic, deep way it is a rare and sacred experience and allows them to be fully present in this moment with you and others.  Take time for people … then listen, don’t fix or suggest actions, just hold the space for listening.  Let the other be and felt heard. Create a safe, neutral space in which the person can be heard.

Examples:

“My husband just got his promotion and now we finally have enough money to take our dream trip.  We are so excited.”

“My daughter was caught drinking alcohol on the school grounds with a group of her friends.  Can you believe it?”

Would “holding space” for your friend or client be empowering or disempowering for them?

2.  Debriefing.  This is the history (list of details) that you are asking to be shared since you last saw this individual (or client).  This is much like the 5 o’clock news.  The individual will give a clear and concise report of what has happened, who they saw, where they went and, importantly, what is working and what is not working.  Everyone benefits from debriefing.  In debriefing we get to celebrate our successes, forgive any mistakes, release the “junk” we have collected and set new goals.

Debriefing with a variety of safe people yields great results.  You will feel refreshed and free.  If you are uncomfortable debriefing to others trying using a journal, or a video or tape recorder.  Create some space for yourself away from the clutter and noise of the daily routine.

3. Clearing.  This is an emotional release by the venting of feelings.  This type of conversation enables us to “get things off our chests.”

Sharing tends to be brief, debriefing is a laundry list of actions, while clearing can fall in between being brief or lengthy.  Clearing, unlike debriefing, generally focuses on a single event or a couple, not a list of them.   Clearing focuses on the event and your emotional response to it.

Questions to elicit clearing include:  “Is there anything you want to say before we start our session?” “… before we begin our meeting?”  ” … before we begin our discussion about ______________?”

Clearing is a way to get “clutter” out of the way to have a more focused conversation or discussion.

4. Discussion and Debate.  These are the dominant forms of conversation in daily life.  This is the natural expression of opinions and views.  Discussion and debate work best when everyone is allowed to equally participate in it … when everyone is allowed to share the space and ’embrace their brilliance.’

For obvious reasons debate is not typically part of an effective coaching practice, while query and discussion are effective in coaching because the pauses and reflections allow for the ‘flow through’ of a deeper, more unexpected conversation.  Never force your opinion or ideas on another… resistance [and alienation] is an expected response.

Consider Socrates method of inquiry:  To create discussion and debate for the purpose of deeper thinking about common human conditions and challenges.

5. Teaching.  Teaching occurs both formally and informally.  We attend classes, workshops, virtual webinars and so forth for the purpose of being ‘taught.’  Informal teaching occurs when someone we are with knows something that we don’t and we want to know what we don’t know, we ask them to share it with us.

Sharing, debate and discussion typically occur within the construct of teaching.  Coaches, in particularly, are cautioned about becoming “a source of wisdom” for their clients.  Coaches all “know” the client has all the answers inside of themselves and becoming the key source for wisdom can disempower the client from their own knowing. However, teaching in a coaching construct can be effective in small doses.

6. The Coaching Conversation is a conversation in which the coach discusses what the client wants for the future along with ways to bring that result forward [without getting advice].

The coaching conversation may include things like creative thinking, generating multiple options, new behavior generators, problem solving and, in general, experimenting with different strategies.   Often you generate what you don’t want in order to define what you do want.

A successful coach is one who listens fully, giving occasional feedback, and permits the client to have a safe, neutral space in which to explore, examine and create.

 

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Rhonda Robbins, speaker, teacher, certified life coach and NLP practitioner has been providing transformational life changing services and personality training to hundreds of individuals, businesses and groups for over ten years.  Rhonda owns and operates, Embrace Your Brilliance, and is available for one-on-one coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google+ Hangout or Yahoo Video Call. You can call me directly at 480-343-8700 or email me at yes@embraceyourbrilliance.co to set up a time for a session, or to ask a question.

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June 9, 2012

#EFT – Emotional Freedom Technique & Hot Yoga in the Park

Andrea Zavislak-Musungwa, Internationally Trained Life Enthusiast & Dream Enhancer
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July Special Events:Andrea Zavislak-Musungwa, Internationally Trained Life Enthusiast & Dream Enhancer

EFT – Emotional Freedom Technique & Hot Yoga in the Park with Internationally Trained Coach, Andrea Zavislak-Musungwa

I have a special friend who just returned from Thailand and India where she obtained even more training and will be visiting in July. She will be offering amazing trainings and classes. Mark your calendar now!

Andrea Zavislak-Musungwa, Internationally Trained Life Enthusiast & Dream Enhancer specializes in the Emotional Freedom Technique, Life Coaching, Hypnosis, Reiki, Thai-Yoga Bodywork, and Yoga.

July 11 – Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) – Releasing your emotions through tapping (active acupuncture) – 6:00 p.m.

During this EFT Session you will bring 3 or 4 items that you would like to work on – write them down or store them in your Ajna Chakra and during the session we will do a tapping process to release the emotions stored with these items. We will be practicing shared-benefits! Come prepared to feel an emotional release!!!! BTW – drink lots of water before the session to help move the energy. Suggested Love Donation of $10. RSVP here: http://ow.ly/bsqP6 
July 18 – Hypnosis – Building Confidence – 6:00 p.m. Build Your Confidence through hypnosis.

Your sub-conscious mind knows best…let it release your limitations, negative thoughts, road blocks, and limiting beliefs. Allow your sub-conscious mind to let you be the best you! Find your AWESOMENESS with more confidence! Suggested Love Donation of $10. Have Questions: Email andreazavislak@yahoo.com or call 404-429-0751. RSVP: http://ow.ly/bspI4

July 23 – You Yoga, Me Yoga offers: HOT Yoga in the Park! Dreaming Summit Park
Get your yoga on…this class will be a Level One/Two Class for everyone. This is a FREE or love donation class that will take place in the Dreaming Summit Park in Litchfield Park. The park is located in Dreaming Summit off of 134th/Rose Lane/Peck Drive. RSVP: http://ow.ly/bspUE

July 24 – You Yoga, Me Yoga offers: HOT Yoga in the Park! Dreaming Summit Park
Get your yoga on…this class will be a Level One/Two Class for everyone. This is a FREE or love donation class that will take place in the Dreaming Summit Park in Litchfield Park. The park is located in Dreaming Summit off of 134th/Rose Lane/Peck Drive. RSVP: http://ow.ly/bsoGf

Be well,
Living a powerful intentional life with limitless choices,
Rhonda Robbins

 

CONTACT US | Embrace Your Brilliance and Change Your Life

Rhonda Robbins, speaker, teacher, certified life coach and NLP practitioner has been providing transformational life changing services and personality training to hundreds of individuals, businesses and groups for over ten years.  Rhonda owns and operates, Embrace Your Brilliance, and is available for one-on-one coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google+ Hangout or Yahoo Video Call. You can call me directly at 480-343-8700 or email me at yes@embraceyourbrilliance.co to set up a time for a session, or to ask a question.

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May 22, 2012

6 Levels of Being and Awareness | Who do you be? —- Part II

6 Levels of Awareness and Being | Who do you be?
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Transform your thought processes.  Change Environmental “it’s just happening to me,”  “nothing I can do about this” into empowering behavior.  Turn empowered behavior into a set of skills and capabilities and you begin to develop requisite variety.  As you continue to build your arsenal of skills and capabilities you will distinguish and empower your identity which will lead you to a mission greater than yourself!

Find out more about this powerful way of thinking and being.

Embrace Your Brilliance High Performance Coaching helps individuals, business owners and their staff reach heightened levels of awareness and being – resulting in increased interpersonal synergy, dynamics and productivity.  Executive and personal success strategies coaching with high-performance techniques which include personality training designed to accelerate results.  Most executives and individuals rely on a familiar set of skills and behaviors as they navigate the workplace. For organizations to come alive and “thrive” often requires a “pattern interrupt.” Utilizing an extensive blended portfolio of business and behavioral skills Embrace Your Brilliance help individuals and executives deliver high-performance results.

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CONTACT US | Embrace Your Brilliance and Change Your Life

Rhonda Robbins, speaker, teacher, certified life coach and NLP practitioner has been providing transformational life changing services and personality training to hundreds of individuals, businesses and groups for over ten years.  Rhonda owns and operates, Embrace Your Brilliance, and is available for one-on-one coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google+ Hangout or Yahoo Video Call. You can call me directly at 480-343-8700 or email me at yes@embraceyourbrilliance.co to set up a time for a session, or to ask a question.

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May 22, 2012

6 Levels of Being and Awareness | Who do you be? —- Part I

6 Levels of Awareness and Being | Who do you be?

Who do you be in life? Who do you want to be in life? http://bit.ly/Kkd0ZC Are you happy being where you are being, getting what you got? Or, are you ready to make some real changes to GET what you want? Move past your current cycle of “stuck”. Get a powerful understanding of how your core values and beliefs impact your success every minutes of the day.

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Who do you be in life? Who do you want to be in life? Are you happy being where you are being, getting what you got? Or, are you ready to make some real changes to GET what you want?  Are beliefs you learned and accepted as a child playing havoc with your life as an adult?

Are you living primarily in the “environment” and stuff just keeps happening to you?  Do you often think God, the universe or others are all conspiring against you?  Are you ready to put yourself in the driver’s seat of your life?


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Move past your current cycle of “stuck” and get a powerful understanding of how your core values and beliefs impact your success every minute of the day.

In this video, Business and Success Strategies Coach, Rhonda Robbins, explains the 6 levels of awareness and being (also known as Dilts Logical Levels) in a unique and broader way than most NLP discusions of Dilts’ Logical Levels.

Embrace Your Brilliance High Performance Coaching helps individuals, business owners and their staff reach heightened levels of awareness and being – resulting in increased interpersonal synergy, dynamics and productivity.  Executive and personal success strategies coaching with high-performance techniques which include personality training designed to accelerate results.  Most executives and individuals rely on a familiar set of skills and behaviors as they navigate the workplace. For organizations to come alive and “thrive” often requires a “pattern interrupt.” Utilizing an extensive blended portfolio of business and behavioral skills Embrace Your Brilliance help individuals and executives deliver high-performance results.

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CONTACT US | Embrace Your Brilliance and Change Your Life

Rhonda Robbins, Success Strategies Coach, NLP Practitioner, Personality Trainer and Certified Life Coach is always available for one-on-one business or personal coaching sessions in person, on the phone, via Skype, Google Talk, Google Voice or Yahoo Video Call. You can email her at rhonda@embraceyourbrilliance.co or call/text to 480-343-8700.

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